Ways To Feel More Confident In Love

Ways To Feel More Confident In Love

Okay, so the idea of approaching someone for a date absolutely terrifies you. Or, maybe you're so nervous about revealing too much about yourself that you can't get past anything other than, "Do you come here often?" If this rings true, then it's time to conquer that inner voice inside of you and become the dating guru you know you were meant to be. First, you need to realize that you're not alone. Your fears are the same fears just about everyone else in the room also has. One person may be worrying about their weight, the other about their height. Everyone has his or her insecurities. Once you truly realize this, the playing field becomes much easier to approach. The next time you're out in a public situation, try to figure out each person's hidden insecurity. If you watch closely you'll begin to read more about people than just their insecurities. You're more in control of how people view you than you think. Take a good look in the mirror. What do you see? How is your posture? Your smile? Your clothing? Could you use a mini-makeover? Taking time for personal enhancement is a very self-rewarding gesture. I'm sure you've heard the saying, "If you look good, you feel good." Guess what? It's true! Make it a point to consciously think about the way you are standing, if you are smiling and the effort you've put into your appearance. Pretty soon it will become natural way of thinking. Actions can drown out your nagging voice of self-doubt. When was the last time you did something that terrified you? Shake things up a bit. Try something new at least once a week. The more you're able to successfully navigate the world around you the more your self-confidence will increase. In addition, if you're busy doing things and being a part of the world around you'll have less time to worry about self-doubt. Are you prepared? You can quickly lose self-confidence and end up trying to anticipate defensive maneuvers by being caught unprepared for certain situations. Be on the offense instead. Lose that nagging voice inside and go ahead and try your hand at small talk. It may feel very uncomfortable at first, but hey, riding a bike the first time wasn't a piece of cake either!

What Women Really Want

An inside look at the feminine side of things...

Over the past few years we have all seen news and magazine reports on what women really want in a man. We have had stereotypes created and thrown at us from all directions and they always seem to change, depending on what station you watch or what newspaper/magazine you read. In the 80's we had the Yuppie, a man driven by material wealth and the pursuit of acquisition and social status that had women swooning all over the place. The 90's saw the advent of "new man" - the strong, sensitive type that would think nothing of helping out with the dishes, doing the laundry or changing diapers. With all these schools of thought offering different opinions on what the current ideal male should be, I decided to turn to do a little research on the subject and come up with my own conclusions. The ideal man is actual a variant of the 80's male in that he is still has a take charge, strong personality but he has also met his match - the woman. Now, in order to fully understand what the ideal man should be, one really has to understand women. A woman is no longer, and hasn't been for quite some time, the weaker sex. She just likes to be looked after and romanced. She likes to be swept of her feet just as much as she likes to be in control and she wants a man that has the ability to allow both sides of her character to flourish, without being a wimp. He can be kind and sensitive, but he can never be a victim. Masculinity is a huge turn on for women. That does not mean that he has to have the body of Hercules, but he must be someone she can proudly show off to her friends and associates. While he does not have to be wealthy or have a great job, he does need to offer security for the woman. He needs to be strong in his convictions, well spoken and have personal goals. In other words, he must have dreams and have the ability to achieve them. If things don't go his way, he gets on with life rather than feels sorry for himself. He also has to be an excellent lover, husband and father. Now what this actually means in real life varies with each woman, but the basics are pretty much as described above. Today's man is actually closer to the classical John Wayne type hero than anything else, in that he is strong and full of character and willing to take charge, but more importantly, he needs to offer security to the woman in his life. I guess what I am really trying to say here is that, guys, it is not really as hard as you have been led to believe. You can be a woman's Prince Charming, just be self-confident, articulate and believe in yourself!

Love Tips For Boys

The following are the tips for boys to love some girl:
Make a cassette tape of your and her favorite love songs, then record (in your voice) a special, romantic message at the end!
Write her a Love poem.
Leave little notes around telling her things you love about her.
Let her rest her head in your lap.
If she's feeling stressed out, give her a massage and help her work out a better way to do things.
Surprise him with a candle-lit dinner.
Let her wear your clothes. It's almost guaranteed she'll look better in one of your button down shirts than you do. (Kind of sexy too!)
If she makes dinner, offer to do the dishes.
Always be a gentleman--hold the door for her.
Give her the same respect you enjoy from her.
Make an effort to get to know (and if you can, love) her family.

When To Say I Love You

The climax of just about every love story is that key moment when the object of affection looks longingly into the other’s eyes; their heart pounds so fast that it sends paralyzing jolts of euphoria throughout the body, and then they say those three little magic words… I love you. This scenario is maybe what we see in the movies, but it is also how we imagine it happening in real life. And, quite frankly how it really should be. Anything else is nothing short of a disappointment. So, how can you ensure that your first “I love yous” will play out like the scene you’ve always envisioned? Read on. One of the most important things to know about saying I love you is that, from the receiver’s point of view, having someone tell you that they love you when the feelings aren’t reciprocated is a horrible feeling. All of a sudden, feelings of fear and a sense of obligation emerge. With this in mind, take the following advice to heart if you are the one saying the first, “I love you.” Even though being honest to yourself and others is of utmost importance, taking your partner’s feelings into consideration is an equally necessary component. We often tell ourselves we are experiencing true love when we feel lust, excitement and connection. In my opinion, time is the only sure way to decipher the true nature of your emotions. It can often seem like we have a built in compulsion to fall or be in love. Sometimes I feel like I could, and do, fall in love every other week. For example, my latest love affair began with a long phone call and then four dates in one week. We both fell so hard for each other, that one day (during the second week), the words just slipped out of my mouth. He was so happy, he picked me up and twirled me around saying, “I love you too. I love you too.” The following month, we were on fire. Predictably, the month after was a little different. After spending every day together for a month, we got to know each other pretty well and there wasn’t anything left to talk about. Our dreams for the future were vastly different and as for our ideas of intellectually stimulating conversation, well…there weren’t any. This left me in the predicament of forced “I love yous.” I found out that this wasn’t the kind of love that means, “I don’t ever want to imagine a day without kissing you and I’d do anything to ensure that I don’t.” You see, most people hear those words when you’re telling them that you love them. It’s what they want to hear, so they do. Hearing those words when you don’t reciprocate the feeling SUCKS! If you aren’t sure that what you're feeling is mutual or immutable, wait. It’s worth it. Hold your tongue until you’re sure to have a “movie moment.” The more anticipation you can build up, the better your moment. Pushing for this key moment will only cheapen it. Imagine yourself marrying this person and then, ten years down the road, you’re reminiscing. “Oh, honey, do you remember the first time I said ‘I love you’?” How do you want that memory to be? I think some people treat the words so casually, that they forget soon after, but there are some who will forever keep the memory because they prevented prematurely saying, “I love you.”